Seldom Seen Way

{October 3, 2014}    “Hey! I am into Kink and I must be slutty.”

/start rant now

Collars… are they really that obnoxious and in people’s faces…

Yes, some can be – however I hear a few stories about how their collar “outs” them to the public – yet when I look at said “collar” I wonder how the Fuck does that out you? Really?

If it isn’t a fucking dog collar and have O-rings, or something with spikes what are you worried about?

The ones that I see that are having “issues” are dainty little choker types.  The only way it could out you is if someone walked up to you – commented on it – and you stated it was a collar… and perhaps added to said comment to hint what it really was.

If you have a problem with being “out” than I suggest you don’t wear said collar – find something that is like a necklace, bracelet, or even a ring. Or I don’t know; perhaps don’t talk about Kink with people – as some individuals (referring to the ones with said collar being outed included) do not have filters. If you don’t want to answer the questions – don’t wear something that would provoke them. That simple.

If you don’t care – don’t fucking worry about it. A lot of time people are just curious – people don’t mind their own business – however you can curb their curiosity but stating it is a choker/necklace given to you from someone special… END of STORY. You don’t owe them an explanation.

If they are judging you – I am going to think it has to do with more than the piece of jewelry around your neck. You obviously gave them a reason or three. Perception/Reflection is a bitch sometimes – and can stick around for years and very hard to reverse.

Mine is an obvious lock attached to a Para cord close to my neck…if I cough – it tightens. However I was told that first time seeing it – it looked like just a neck piece – and once they got to know me – they knew it had more of a meaning to it.

I have no problems calling it a collar – I am not afraid for my personal well-being, my children or even my job. It is not like I am throwing it in your face that we M/s. Hell – many have no fucking clue what that is or that we are doing it right in front of them ALL THE TIME.

Accept who you are – or go into hiding and SHUT YOUR MOUTH. Just don’t bring your drama or pity seeking to everyone else.



/rant ended



abezure says:

Very true

lucidsyn says:

So much this. I know you are passionate about this my little fae, as it seems to be a bit of a localized Plague in our little corner of the world. This needed to be said. ❤

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