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{March 7, 2016}   “Friends”

Note | 2 Love It | 1 day ago

You have a “friends” list (Notice the quote marks) – yet how many of them do you really consider your friend?

i thought to look up the definitions:

Friend defined: a person whom one knows and with whom one has a bond of mutual affection, typically exclusive of sexual or family relations.

Acquaintance defined by urban dictionary which really does it for me: Someone you know during high school but will probably never talk to him/her again after high school.

For me – I wish social media would call our Friend list something that really describes it.

i am guessing that “People we have connected with on some Level and wish to stay aware of their going-ons in a not so creepy way” is too long??

Honestly most of them (80%) are just acquaintances, a handful i would consider Friends (15%)…and the remaining small gathering that started as acquaintances…became friends…and eventually now i have the pleasure to call Family.

For me within all those “Labels” a person can and do ebb and flow.

Yeah i know what you are thinking… Aren’t Friends like forever?

Fuck no. And i am good with that.

Many things can change over the course of minutes, hours, days, months, years that can change that relationship. It all depends on how that person or IF that person wishes to work on where they are on that spectrum with me.

And many times – there are moments; i do not want to work on it with them.

Selfish i know – but let us be honest – we all do it.

Head’s up run on sentence
i get to easily just remove you from the medias as if you never happened…except when you are friends with about 20+ other people i know and i keep seeing your stuff pop up on my feed because they NEED to comment in some way to it…and i do not want to remove them too….though at times…i am very tempted.

There i said it 😉 However i still love you… in an acquaintance/friend kind way :p

Do not get me wrong, i do have Friends that i have had since forever and a day – it is just that sometimes you have to negotiate things when they move away, and Life changes (death, birth, marriage, divorce) to make it work… for you.

Usually when i do that – these are the people that i want to invest the parts of me that most will never get to see, and they will become eventually Family.

I am not dissing Friends, just how the word is used and thrown around on social media and each person’s take on it.

What does that word REALLY mean to you?

As for my Friends/Acquaintances – Thank you for being who you are, you keep life interesting; sometimes it is more entertaining than watching our 5 cats some evenings (which is hard to beat mind you).

Now back to my regularly scheduled Saturday evening with Sir of coffee, cats, cuddles and their chaos.


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