Seldom Seen Way

{July 3, 2016}   Humility.

This is the topic this month in Sir’s Household. He has asked Kitten to ask 3 s-types about Humility and what is means to them, and their relationship.

Sir has asked that i respond via a post – which i agree whole-heartily with. It is not something i can do in a sentence or two – or in coherent sentences – however i will try my best.

For me, humility plays a few parts in our Relationship. Many moons ago, i did write a blurb on this – though brief.

Humility (bolded for a reason) is my arch enemy. It was the elephant in the room but that was no more where Syn was concerned. He was going to deal with it Head-On.

I am a stubborn one. I am very independent as it has been more of a survival issue for me. I have goals and in getting to those goals sometimes (ok most times) I don’t care how I get there even if it is not safe on my personal well-being.

We will just say – i learned this lesson the hard way. Not something i recommend to others.

The Why and How i practice humility is something that i need to do daily. There are days where it is really easy… and of course there are days where i force myself – as it helps and re-enforces me to know my place in our relationship.

Humility naturally leads to submission. For me humility, submission and obedience go together.

It is one thing to serve Sir, but it’s another thing entirely to choose to be of service to Him. The grace (another watch word) of humility is worked in my Life through the discipline of serving.

i can show humility through obedience to Sir. Instead of imposing my desires and wants on Him, i submit to His words/actions, knowing that His agenda is in my or our best interest. When you trust Sir enough to take Him at His word – you know He doesn’t want to harm you and wishes to help you grow and move forward in a positive light.

There are always areas i can work on improving , new ideas i can learn and new experiences i can have and share with Him. It is like a built-in ego booster and you are learning to balance it. Humility for me is used as a way to remind myself how far i have come and how far i have yet to go. It is viewed as a motivation to strive to be even better.

To bring more humility into your relationship, you need to be honest about what you can and cannot do, have and be. This in turn brings up vulnerability. You need to realize that Life is about growth and change.

One thing i have learned is the expectation that i might have hoped for – is NOTHING like it turns out to be. Sometimes you just have to not look at your Life as always serious otherwise you get easily frustrated, angry and disappointed. Go with the Flow – you might be surprised by the outcome.

In saying that , being teachable is another part of humility. i do not know everything and as it is i can learn a lot from others – even at my age. i find it actually harder the older i get to realize this. We tend to get more set in our ways and very stubborn.

i have learned to be more grateful for what i have; be it skills, intelligence, or even my looks, yet not brag about it. Be just more humble. There is always someone more skilled, more intelligent – and hell better looking.

You need to take responsibility for your actions as actions, not as a definition of who you are. This allows you to be more objective about yourself – and hopefully motivate you to do something/move forward instead of being in a stand-still or go in a backward movement. There cannot be growth otherwise. This is something that i instill in myself, and to the ones around me.







Xtac says:

And then there is the Dominant version of humility… “If its the truth, it isn’t bragging.”

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